… and it’s an exciting one at that! Speed dating!!
This is something that I’ve wanted to do for years and I’m so excited that I’m finally doing it. I managed to persuade (possibly push?!) my friend from work into coming along and we took the plunge and booked it the other night. So, in a couple of weeks time, we’ll be going on 20-30 dates in one evening!
For those of you who aren’t 100% what speed dating is, according to Google, it is “an organized social activity in which people seeking romantic relationships have a series of short conversations with potential partners in order to determine whether there is mutual interest”. Basically, the women sit and the men rotate tables every three minutes to talk to all the women there. Everyone has a little scorecard and you mark down whether you like that person or not, and then the organisers will get in touch with you about any matches.
My friend that’s going with me is a bit older than myself but we managed to find a age category we both fit in. At twenty one, I’m right at the bottom end and my friend is closer to the thirties end of the group. Good start, right?
It is something that always looks fun in the movies and I’ve heard from various people I know who have been before that it’s a brilliant night. It can be a bit hit and miss but who knows, I might just meet Mr Right!
In preparation, I thought I’d look up some tips to ensure as smooth a night as possible and here are my top five.
Nothing is more relaxing or puts nerves at ease as much as seeing a friendly, smiling face.
- Don’t talk about yourself all the time.
Make sure you actually ask them some questions and that the conversation works both ways. No one likes someone who is obsessed with me, myself and I!
- Say goodbye properly.
I didn’t think of this at all but once I read it, it seemed obvious. Don’t just stop speaking mid-sentence and walk away but actually finish the conversation and maybe tell them how nice it was to meet them.
- Don’t get drunk.
I’d hope this would be pretty obvious but pace yourself, a drunk potential partner is not an appealing potential partner.
- Make sure you have some back-up questions/topics.
I think this is one of the most important tips I’ve read. There’s nothing more uncomfortable than an awkward lull and having a few go-to conversation pieces is always handy.
Speaking of conversation topics, I’m trying to think up a few myself. I have a couple of ideas (dream holiday destination, three things you couldn’t live without, etc) but I’m hoping I won’t need them too often. So, any tips, guys? They’re more than welcome!
I have no doubt that there’ll be a real mix of guys there. Some I won’t fancy, some that may creep me out and some (hopefully) that’ll I’ll hit it off with. If in doubt though, I’m gonna stick with my three golden rules when first meeting new people… good teeth, strong handshake and good shoes (you can tell a lot about a person by their shoes). And if they tick all three and can make me laugh? I’m their’s!